Making Selfless Choices

There are times that I find myself at the edge of my emotions questioning whether I should push or pull, go left or right when I know I am in a situation where I need to confront my children, husband or another ministry leader about an issue. Sometimes the right choice is less obvious than you may think - the choice that seems loving may actually be too indulgent or may pose a problem down the road. These hard choices keep me on my knees, and for that I am thankful. I found a great quote in Oswald Chambers' devotional "My Utmost For His Highest" - "In sactification the rejenerated soul deliberately gives up his right to himself to Jesus Christ, and identifies himself entirely with God's interest in other men." When I'm faced with a hard decision involving another's behavior, I pray and remind myself that I have given God all my rights. I then try to identify myself with God's interest in the other person. What does He care about in this situation? That usually helps me address the problem in the right way, and confront the person - whether it be my child, my husband or my friend - in love and with concern that the person is being used by God in the way He would want to use them. I hope that you are blessed by this insight, too! I can't say it's made confronting others easy for me :) , but it gives me peace to know that I am confronting others while seeing them through the eyes of Love.